In this video Father David Nix uses St. Peter’s first letter to speak on how to be a better father to both your sons and daughters.
1 Peter 5:1-3. “So I exhort the elders among you, as a fellow elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, as well as a partaker in the glory that is to be revealed. Tend the flock of God that is your charge, not by constraint but willingly, not for shameful gain but eagerly, not as domineering over those in your charge but being examples to the flock.”
The message in St. Peter’s first letter, addressed to priests and bishops, can be applied to fathers as well. Fr David Nix shares that the role of a father is that of a prophet and a protector, looking out for things that may be harmful to the members of the family – physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. In a sense, grace is given to the office of fatherhood to deliver bad news. Especially when it harms the family.
However, Fr David Nix emphasizes the importance for Fathers to have a relationship with their children. He uses the example of a coach. Anyone can take a tough coach that calls on his team towards perfection, who makes high demands of their character and performance as sports men and women, if they know he loves them. A team that has a relationship with their coach, trusts their coach. In the same way, fathers can emphasize rules and implement rules, but unless they have a relationship with their children, rebellion will result. Rules without relationship leads to rebelling. Relationship first with Christ, then with your children.
Fr David Nix then speaks of the importance of words of affirmations as a way to encourage your sons.
What we say to our children and what we advise our children should be aimed at countering specifically the lies that the world says to them. As a father (and as parents) we need to speak the truth to our sons. This will be against the voice of the world, the voice of the flesh, and the voice of the devil.
For our daughters, Fr Nix says that spending time with them is crucial. Meg Mecker. M. D., author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know”, shares that the determinant of self-esteem for girls is her father.
Is her father there for her? Is he present at home? Does he look at her daughter in a pure way? Does he live in sanctifying grace? Is the home safe spiritually?
“The best way to be a good dad is to be holy, through and through, when nobody is watching…”
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Stephanie Chia is from Singapore. She received a Bachelors' degree in Sociology and has worked as a research assistant refining pedagogy for teacher education.
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