Saturday, 14 December 2019 04:18

Loneliness?

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Have you ever wondered what would be in your life if your loved ones were missing?

Have you started analyzing your life if you were left alone in this life?

A few days ago, my wife went on a pilgrimage known as “In the footsteps of the Apostle Paul,” and I was in charge of the household and our children...

I don't know if you ever wanted to be alone for a while, a few hours, or a few days to be able to disconnect from the world, and to have a few hours to "regain strength."

The fact is that at the time my wife was away, I had time to meditate while working alone at home.

At first, I only saw that I had the responsibility of having the work and the house up to date; I only saw the responsibility of having the school uniforms of my children clean and ironed, of having them food, and of having the house in order and clean ... And I don't know if I achieved these goals, but as the days were going, I began to see different things ... I no longer only saw the responsibilities and obligations, but I wanted to do a personal exercise.

The exercise consisted of imagining that I was alone at home, and that my wife and children would no longer return ... I imagined what it would be like to be alone in life. I did not do it to martyrize myself, but to try to understand even more the love and warmth of my family.

And it all started one morning when the alarm beeped, and I woke up. I looked at the side of the bed, and the place where my wife should be was empty. Then, I sent my children to school and during the day I continued with the exercise.

When I had to move inside the house, I could only see the emptiness. I just listened to silence. The laughs were not there. The scolding did not exist. The jokes and pranks had vanished… 

We know very well what the habits of our loved ones are. We know where they sit, what they smell like, what they play, their voices, their hobbies, their gestures… But I realized that none of that thinks were in the house anymore.

I went to the kitchen, and it was empty. I walked into the living room, there was no one. I entered my children's rooms, nobody was occupying them. I entered my room, and only saw an empty bed, and a full closet… The house was lifeless.

I began to think: "What if all my days were the same?" "What if my family no longer existed?"

Imagine yourselves waking up in the morning and not seeing anyone, not talking to anyone, not having anyone to help, not having anyone to care for you, not having anyone who with their own presences fill you with love, not having no one with whom to argue, or with whom to reconcile.

And it was then, in the middle of this exercise, I could feel “physically” the reality of many people abandoned by their families, of some who live alone because not even they can bear themselves; I could see the reality of people who live alone and because their selfishness do not allow anyone to be part of their existence… And I could feel the pain of the absence of my wife and my children because the mornings no longer had colors, nor did the afternoon coffee taste good. The days have been eternal, and all the moments were the same… absolute loneliness.

Yes, I know it was only an exercise, but doing this kind of ... let us call it "mini retreat", I could feel (literally, feel) the absence of my loved ones.

This exercise became more real because during that time nobody knocked on the door, I did not receive a call from anyone, nobody worried about me in case we needed something, not a greeting, the office meeting was cancelled, not even a missed call, or a scam call or of some seller… How sad for those people who live alone and helpless, and never even receive someone's visit!

This exercise has helped me a lot to be able to appreciate and value much more having a wife who loves me and takes care of me, and knowing that my children, thank God, will return after school…

Yes, I well know perfectly that I am not perfect, on the contrary, I am full of defects, but this exercise made me see a reality that I had never considered… (hmmm… It must be that I am getting old) … It allowed me to draw as a conclusion that time is a treasure, time is like gold, and should not be wasted losing it in banalities, rather, the exhortation is to make the most of time to love our wives / husbands and children, and all our family and friends.

Time is going very fast, and we do not know when the Lord will call us to leave this world, but by the time the time comes, we better would like to be perfectly prepared.

Although we know and believe our time on this earth is limited, we do not do everything well, we still make mistakes, and this, even if it is without intention, hurts our loved ones very much, and can generate very painful wounds which can take a long time to heal.

Let us reconcile with those whom we have hurt, or who have hurt us; let us ask for forgiveness, let us visit those who have been forgotten either for lack of love or for excess of resentment. God, our God, is a God of Love and Mercy, and he expects that from us to be instruments of His love and mercy everywhere, on time and out of time.

Now that we are in the midst of Advent and Christmas is approaching, these important dates are coming, such as the season of Advent and Christmas, have we thought about the loneliness in which many of our brothers and sisters are living around the world? And let's not just talk about those who have been abandoned for x or y reason. Let us also think about the loneliness of people who have had to leave their land, their homes, their families, their friends ... due to political situations, or because of a better job opportunity, or for whatever other reason…

Have we ever thought about the loneliness of the one who is totally alone in the world? Have we started to think what is would be like for us that we could be in that situation?

And it is on these very special dates when the heart wrinkles more, and it is the time when more people need to feel the warmth of family and friends… Let us not wait to be alone in this world, to be able to feel the helplessness of our brothers and sisters; let's work from today to make humanity happier.

I dare you to do this exercise. Do you dare?

May God, Saint Joseph and Blessed Mary bless us and protect us.

¡Laudetur Iesus Christus!

iFong

 

GlennFFAGlenn Fong is from Cali, Colombia but is currently living in Florida. He has been married to Sandra since 2001 and counting...(yes, it is possible! Marriage is supposed to be forever!), and they have been blessed with two children. Glenn studied Systems Engineering at San Buenaventura University in Cali, Colombia and now works for a multinational company as an Analyst-Developer. He is not a writer, but his passion for Christ and His Church propel him to write about many different topics. Glenn is author and editor of the Blog "It´s for Real".

You can read Glenn's blog in spanish here: http://gfongm.wordpress.com

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